In Philippians 1:9-11, the apostle Paul describes the type of love that should abound among the disciples of Jesus Christ.
It is not what current culture and politics suggests.
Paul describes a love that is defined by something. Love among disciples — and what they manifest to other disciples and to the unbelieving world — is, first, abounding. It is not static, but always growing — in scope, in depth, and zeal.
Second, this Jesus-love is defined by knowledge and discernment. But knowledge of what? Culture and politics would say that love is defined by the knowledge of what the recipient desires, such as to be affirmed in their sexual preference, or gender identity, or political stance, generally. Discernment, then, according to the world’s approach, is the ability to perceive what the recipient wants from your love, and provide it without reservation or hesitation. According to the world, you love properly when you love according to the recipient’s preference.
But the Bible has a different idea.
The third parameter of biblical love is that it is for the purpose of approving what is excellent. “Fine” — the world says — “what is excellent is a person’s sexual preference and gender identity, so, approve that in order to be loving.”
But, again, the Bible has a different idea.
The fourth parameter of biblical love is that it is for the end of being presented before Jesus, at his return, as pure and blameless. This, too, is the fruit of righteousness that comes from Jesus, and is for the glory of God.
Being pure and blameless, as the fruit of righteousness, for the glory of God, is defined by the Bible, by God, himself, not by sinful humans.
To love, then, in a way that pleases God, is to love people away from lies and falsehood and wickedness, toward truth and righteousness and grace.